Month: September 2018

I am a 17-year-old girl and I would like to become a mother one day. But my family don’t want that. I have difficulty learning new things. So I shouldn’t become a mother. I think that’s unfair. Should I really not be a mother when I’m older?

You might want to speak about this with your family.
You can get help to do this.
Perhaps you can get help from an adult you trust.
There are also so-called advice centres where you can get help.

In Germany any woman can become a mother.
But you don’t have to become a mother.
The decision is not simple.
You are still very young.
You have lots of time to make this decision.
It’s ok to give yourself time to make the decision.

Advice centres can also help you make the decision.
If you become a mother, you will always be a mother.
Being a mother is not easy.
You can get support: http://www.behinderte-eltern.de/Papoo_CMS/index.php?menuid=98
A baby takes up a lot of time and costs money.
Your child should do well.
Your child should also be happy.
It’s great when people help you do this.

My boyfriend wants me to swallow his sperm. What exactly is sperm? And can you really swallow it?

Sperm is a sticky liquid.
This liquid comes out of a man’s penis.
This happens during ejaculation.
This article tells you what ejaculation is:
https://refu-tips.de/en/my-friend-told-me-that-he-ejaculated-what-does-that-mean/

If you swallow sperm you cannot get pregnant.
But sperm can carry diseases.
Even when the sperm is swallowed.
If you are not sure if your boyfriend is healthy, it is better not to swallow his sperm.

Sperm tastes different to everyone.
Some people like the taste.
Some people find sperm disgusting.
Both are ok.

You do not have to swallow sperm.
And nobody should force you to swallow sperm.
Not even your boyfriend.

I am a 16-year-old boy and I use a wheelchair. I like hanging out with my friends. They say I can’t have sex. Because of the wheelchair. They say I’m not a proper man. I’m not sure. Is that true?

No, that’s not true.
There is no such thing as a “proper” man.
People are different – men and boys too.
A man can be big or small.
A man can love men or women.
A man can have a wheelchair.
Every man is different.
It’s ok that you have a wheelchair.

There are also different types of sex.
Sexual intercourse is only one form of sex.
Sexual intercourse is when the penis is inserted into the vagina or the anus.
There are also many other ways to have sex.
What’s right is what feels good to both of you.

First find out where you like to be touched.
Tell your girlfriend or boyfriend honestly what you like.
Ask him or her what he or she likes.
Together you can make each other feel nice.

I am a 17-year-old boy and I was wondering if I can use the same condom twice?

No, you can’t.
If you put a condom on the penis for a second time, sperm can accidentally get on the outside of the condom.
Then the sperm can enter the woman’s vagina.
Then the woman can become pregnant.

We have a few tips for you:
Only use condoms from sealed packaging.
Do not use a condom if…
The packaging is broken or open.
The condom is torn.
The expiry date has passed.
You have ejaculated.
You have to pull the condom down the penis again.
The condom does not fit the penis properly.
Then you must throw the condom away.

You can buy several condoms at the same time.
Cheap condoms are sold in drugstores.
Buying condoms is completely normal.
You are showing that you are taking responsibility.
You do not need to feel embarrassed!

My boyfriend (17) is paraplegic. Yesterday he told me that his mother shaves his genital area. Because of the law of purity in Islam. What does that mean? Is it really important that he is shaved?

The law of purity means being clean, as stipulated by religion.
Islam states that a Muslim should be clean when praying.
Your boyfriend is physically disabled.
He might not be able to pray.
If he can pray, then maybe he can shave himself.

If he is religious, he can abide by the rules.
He can decide that for himself.
He can also decide if he wants to be shaved.
But he is not a bad Muslim if he does not shave.
He might find it unpleasant to be shaved by his mother.
He can decide who shaves him.

Your boyfriend has personal rights.
That means for example that he can make decisions about his own body.
And that nobody can force him to do something unpleasant.
Not even because of his disability.