I am pregnant. And I do NOT want to have the child. What should I do now?

You are allowed to decide whether you want to have the child or not.
You can talk about it with someone you trust.
But you can make your own decision.

You are allowed to terminate the pregnancy.
That is permitted in Germany.
But only when the foetus inside you is still very small.
When you are less than three months pregnant.
If you are under the age of 18 and want to have an operation under general aesthetic,
you must obtain consent from your parent or legal guardian.

You must visit a pregnancy advice centre in advance.
Find an advice centre here: http://www.familienplanung.de/beratung/beratungsstellensuche
There is no need to be frightened. They will only talk to you.
You can tell them why you want to terminate the pregnancy.
Then you will receive confirmation that you visited the advice centre.
You need this confirmation to have an abortion.
They will also give you the address of a doctor or a hospital.
A place where you can receive safe treatment.
Do not try any other method. That can be dangerous.

If the foetus inside you is already older than 3 months, you will have to give birth to it.
Then you are allowed to give up the child for adoption.
The youth welfare office will look for parents for the baby.

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This website is designed for underage girls and boys.

But you should be at least 13 years old.

We will have new information for you regularly.

So visit our website often.


You would like to feel at home in Germany.

So you need to know the rules.

And you need to learn a few things.

We want to help you do this.


Maybe we are too direct for you.

Maybe you find something embarrassing.

Something we write.

We do not mean to cause any harm.

We apologise in advance.

But it is important that you also know about embarrassing subjects.


You should feel comfortable and safe in Germany.

We want to help you feel that way.

How can you help me?

We can explain things to you and give you information via the website.

Nothing bad should happen to children and young people here.

We are committed to providing support.

That is why we are explaining lots of things.

So that you know what is good and what is bad.


We cannot help children and young people directly.

You cannot speak to us by telephone.

But there are many other people in Germany who help children and young people.

Even when they have experienced violence.

Even when they have experienced sexual abuse.

We can tell you where to find help.


You should be safe here.